Random Responses to People's Kindnesses

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I thought I would post a few of the comments I've found myself making to people who are offering up their prayers, thoughts, and help. Everyone is so kind, and I'm trying to be gracious. Gracious and sarcastic, because I have to believe that you can be both.

1. (on an invitation to the blog) Please accept this invitation to keep updated on this hellish journey of mine (ain't I sweet, inviting you to hell and all?)

2. Thanks for your kind thoughts and fervent prayers. We're accepting all kinds at this time. Stay tuned for further developments--we might as well try to make this at least more entertaining than cable--after all, cancer can't have all the fun!

3. Since I last saw you, I've been diagnosed with stage 4 metastatic breast cancer. Basically, shit in a basket delivered to my front porch.

4. Clark's going to try to get back to work on Wednesday since we can't have him getting fired--getting cancer is so damned expensive--if I knew it would have been this pricey, you know I wouldn't have gone and grown a tumor. Honestly. I appreciate your support and kindness, and please know that I'll use and abuse your offer in the future, but it may be the further future rather than the nearer.

If I've written any snarky emails to any of you, please post in the comments section. I do love good black humor--so very entertaining.

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